After a divorce, do I have to avoid perfume, makeup and jewelry the way a widow does?
The mourning a widow keeps is not the default for a divorced woman. After a revocable divorce there is no iḥdād, with no disagreement known.123 After a final divorce the schools differ: the Ḥanafī school makes it obligatory, the Shāfiʿī school recommends it, and the Mālikī and Ḥanbalī schools do not require it.3456
What the four schools say
The schools agree there is no iḥdād after a revocable divorce. After a final divorce they differ: obligatory (Ḥanafī), recommended (Shāfiʿī, with one view that it is obligatory), not required (Mālikī), permitted but not recommended (Ḥanbalī, with a second narration that it is obligatory).
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Ḥanafī الحنفية
Iḥdād is for a woman in the iddah of a final divorce or of death, and she keeps it even if the man who divorced her told her not to.4 There is no iḥdād in the iddah of a revocable divorce.2
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Mālikī المالكية
Iḥdād is required of the widow only, not of the divorced woman.5
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Shāfiʿī الشافعية
Iḥdād is obligatory in the iddah of death and not for a revocably divorced woman; it is recommended for a finally divorced woman, and in one view obligatory.3
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Ḥanbalī الحنابلة
There is no iḥdād on a revocably divorced woman.1 For a finally divorced woman it is permitted by consensus but not recommended6; Ibn Qudāmah reports two narrations from Aḥmad, one making it obligatory and one not.8
What can change this
Sources
- 1
Ibn Qudāmah, al-Mughnī (Ḥanbalī), 8:155
- 2
Ibn ʿĀbidīn, Radd al-Muḥtār ʿalā al-Durr al-Mukhtār (Ḥanafī), 3:532
- 3
al-Nawawī, Minhāj al-Ṭālibīn (Shāfiʿī), p. 256
- 4
Ibn ʿĀbidīn, Radd al-Muḥtār ʿalā al-Durr al-Mukhtār (Ḥanafī), 3:530–531
- 5
al-Dardīr, al-Sharḥ al-Kabīr ʿalā Mukhtaṣar Khalīl, with Ḥāshiyat al-Dasūqī (Mālikī), 2:478
3 more sources, 6 to 8
- 6
al-Buhūtī, Kashshāf al-Qināʿ ʿan Matn al-Iqnāʿ (Ḥanbalī), 5:428
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al-Buhūtī, Sharḥ Muntahā al-Irādāt (Ḥanbalī), 3:206
- 8
Ibn Qudāmah, al-Mughnī (Ḥanbalī), 8:164