After a divorce
This is a hard time, and you don’t have to work it all out today. Start with this week; the rest can wait.
Not safe, or too much to carry alone today? What to do now →
فَإِنَّ مَعَ ٱلْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا
For indeed, with hardship will be ease.
This week
What this week asks of you
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If you are not safe
Your safety comes first. Call 911 in danger, or the Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.
Read more: If you are not safe -
Where you live now
Whether you stay in his house depends on the kind of divorce. You never have to stay where you are not safe.
Read more: Where you live now -
Money and housing
What he owes you during the iddah depends on the kind of divorce. The schools set out maintenance and housing.
Read more: Money and housing -
The date it started
Note the date and the words of the talāq, spoken or written. How a court decree fits in is explained, never decided, there.
Read more: The date it started
Your questions, in the order they come
Tonight
- Do I have to stay in his house during my iddah, and what if it is not safe there?
- Does iddah apply to me, and when did it start?
- Was my divorce revocable or final, and what does the difference mean for me?
- We had our nikāḥ but never lived together as husband and wife. Do I have an iddah after the divorce?
This week
- I still get my period. How long is my iddah after a divorce?
- When exactly does my iddah end: when my third period starts, or when it finishes?
- I am past menopause, or I have never had periods. How long is my iddah after a divorce?
- I am breastfeeding and my periods have not come back. How long is my iddah?
- My periods stopped and I do not know why. How long is my iddah?
- I got a khulʿ. Is my iddah one period or three?
- Does he have to support me and pay for housing during my iddah?
- After a divorce, do I have to avoid perfume, makeup and jewelry the way a widow does?
- We were divorced in a US court. Does that count as an Islamic divorce, and when would my iddah start?Being written