When your husband has passed away

May Allah have mercy on him, and make this time easy for you. You don’t need to know everything today. Start with this week; the rest can wait.

Not safe, or too much to carry alone today? What to do now →

ٱلَّذِينَ إِذَآ أَصَـٰبَتْهُم مُّصِيبَةٌ قَالُوٓا۟ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّآ إِلَيْهِ رَٰجِعُونَ

Who, when disaster strikes them, say, "Indeed we belong to Allāh, and indeed to Him we will return."

Qurʾān, al-Baqarah 2:156

This week

What this week asks of you

Where you will sleep tonight

The iddah is usually kept in the home you shared. If it is not safe or you cannot stay, the schools allow moving.
Read more: Where you will sleep tonight
Who brings food and does the errands

Let family and friends cook and run errands this week, so you can rest and grieve.
Read more: Who brings food and does the errands
Telling work, and asking for leave

Some states require bereavement leave, and you can ask for a religious accommodation for the months of your iddah.
Read more: Telling work, and asking for leave
The date to count from

Write down the date he died. If the news reached you later, the ruling page shows what the schools say about counting.
Read more: The date to count from

Iddah (also spelled iddat or idda). Each answer shows the four schools and its sources.