This week
Only what this week asks, in the order it usually comes. Let others carry the rest.
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Where you will sleep tonight
The iddah is usually kept in the home you shared. If it is not safe or you cannot stay, the schools allow moving.
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Who brings food and does the errands
Let family and friends cook and run errands this week, so you can rest and grieve.1
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Telling work, and asking for leave
Some states require bereavement leave, and you can ask for a religious accommodation for the months of your iddah.2
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The date to count from
Write down the date he died. If the news reached you later, the ruling page shows what the schools say about counting.
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The janāzah and the grave
The schools differ on whether you attend the janāzah or visit the grave. Read what each says.
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If you are not safe
Your safety comes first. Call 911 in danger, or the Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.
Read more: If you are not safe
Sources
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Sunan Abī Dāwūd 3132 · Hasan (Al-Albani)
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U.S. EEOC, "Religious Discrimination"